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DON’T DELAY!
4 Tips to Minimize Procrastination. by Michele Ranard, M.Ed.
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Procrastination may be a tendency as human as eating and sleeping, but certain children seem more vulnerable than others and may need some assistance. In The Procrastinating Child (2002), Rita Emmett conceptualizes procrastination as a nasty habit both children and adults can correct.
What is the cause of our frequent delays, and is there really
more to it than laziness or fear? Carleton University researcher Timothy Pychyl
studies procrastination and believes to understand it we must take into account
“self-defeating behavior including: emotions, self-regulation, the role
of personality interacting
with situation and how we perceive reward.”
Here are some tips to increase productivity gleaned from the
expertise of Pychyl and other experts on the topic.
1. Ditch the Nike Cliche.
To combat the tendency to put things off, expert and author of
The Now Habit (2007) Neil Fiore
suggests transforming the thought “I don’t want to” into “I wonder what will
come?” Sound simple? This sort of attitude adjustment is powerful. In a sense,
the subtle shift in mindset tricks the brain into a more productive mode.
Another effective shift in thinking is switching from the
attitude “Just do it” to “Just get started.” Carleton University researcher
Timothy Pychyl (2008) conducted a series of studies on procrastination and
found that the participant’s perception of the tasks they needed to get done
was significant. Once we get started on a task, it’s rarely as bad as we
thought. The phrase “Just get started” was more powerful in helping
participants see the thing they wanted to do was not really that frightening.
And it’s okay if the task doesn’t get finished right away. As
Pychyl writes “Even if we don't finish the task, we have done something, and
the next day our attributions about self are not nearly as negative. We feel
more in control and more optimistic. You might even say we have a little
momentum.”
Pychyl’s 2010 study revealed that
to stop putting off a task, forgiving onesself is effective to stop
procrastinating. When you self-forgive, the chance you will delay getting down
to business in the future will decrease. Apparently, the negative emotions
surrounding the task are eased with forgiveness.
It may also be helpful to talk to your child about how
perfectionism robs productivity. Kids need to be reminded it is okay to make
mistakes so explain “not perfect” is altogether different from “fail.”
One of the best ways to help them become more comfortable with
accepting mistakes is through modeling. Seeing a parent acknowledge their own
daily errors (and responding with humor and compassion for the missteps) is
both a gift and permission to be more accepting.
Emmett recommends helping children break overwhelming tasks
into smaller chunks. If your child has an upcoming test and simply cannot get
the gears in motion to prepare, help her get organized. Look at the task of
test preparation as a series of baby steps. Help her make a short list for a
plan of attack.
A great strategy for older kids and their parents from Emmett’s
book:
*Select a task
you’ve been putting off.
*Time yourself
and take one hour to accomplish the task.
*Ignore
everything around you, such as the phone and other tasks
*No breaks.
*Give yourself a
reward once the task is complete.
4. Set expectations & Write it down.
Parents can influence their children’s productivity by
setting firm rules at home, offering rewards, and making lists. The basic rule
of “No TV until your homework or housework is done” is an obvious place to
begin to curb the procrastination. Screen time can be suspended or offered as a
reward for successful time management.
Make lists for everything so there can be no excuses.
Adolescents are especially prone to selective memory even when rules are
clearly articulated. Notes are more effective than nagging for gentle reminders
of chores, appointments and expectations.
Hopefully these suggestions will help you feel proactive in
helping your children develop better habits that will serve them well through
adulthood.
Michele Ranard has a husband, two children, and a master’s in counseling.
Resources:
Fiore, Neil. 2007. The
Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying
Guilt-Free Play. Tarcher.
Pychyl, T.A. Don’t Delay: Understanding Procrastination and
How to Achieve Your Goals. Psychology
Today. March 26, 2008.
Wohl, M.J.A.,
Pychyl, T.A., & Bennet, S.H. (2010). I forgive myself, now I can
study: How self-forgiveness for procrastinating can reduce future
procrastination. Personality and Individual Differences, 48, 803-808.
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