M. Ranard, M.Ed.
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Seated on the floor with legs stretched out before her, my perfectly proportioned and petite eight year old niece recently gazed at her bare legs and sighed, “My thighs are fat!”
My friend Eileen’s son is thirteen with washboard abs from swimming but asks his mother far too often for the number of calories on his dinner plate.
Eating Disorders on the Rise
Such everyday scenarios reflect our children’s growing sensitivity to body image and weight issues. The media is saturated with unrealistic and unattainable body shapes, and our children are more vulnerable than ever to such images.
Unfortunately, the incidence of eating disturbances is increasing among children and teens across America. However, as parents we can play a major part in lowering their risk.
The National Eating Disorders Association reports the onset of eating disorders is usually in adolescence, but even KINDERGARTENERS can exhibit symptoms! So from an early age, parents should engage children in discussions of healthy bodies and healthy eating.
Symptoms
Anorexia Nervosa is a refusal to maintain a minimally normal weight for height, fear of gaining weight, and preoccupation with weight and body shape. Consequences of anorexia are muscle loss, weakening of the heart, osteoporosis, dehydration, and hair loss.
Bulimia Nervosa is over-eating in secret followed by compensatory behavior (self-induced vomiting or use of diuretics). Bulimics often fast, exercise compulsively, and become overly concerned with weight and shape. Consequences include heart irregularity due to dehydration and electrolyte imbalances, gastrointestinal issues, ulcers, and tooth decay.
Binge Eating Disorder involves binge eating with an absence of compensatory behaviors. Consequences for health are the same as for obesity and include risk of diabetes, hypertension, and heart disease.
Who Develops an Eating Disorder?
The NEDA estimates that 11 million Americans struggle with an eating disorder.
University of Minnesota Professor Dianne Neumark-Sztainer, an expert on eating disturbances in adolescence, identifies three types of risks for developing an eating disorder:
1. Poor body image/low self-esteem.
2. Messages in the environment that thin bodies are most attractive.
3. Dieting or binging.
Dr. Neumark-Sztainer suggests eating disorder prevention should begin at a very young age and writes “early messages can be as simple as learning to feel good about your body.”
Six Prevention Strategies
1. Stress health, not weight. Help your child develop a better body image by consistently stressing health, not thinness. In my niece’s case, her mother explained her thighs were “just right” and how not everyone’s legs look quite the same.
2. Explain the big payoff for sports. Talk to your kids about the importance of exercise, and encourage them to participate in team sports. Current research indicates athletes feel better about their bodies and weight than non-participants.
3. Model healthier behaviors yourself. Do not call yourself fat or talk negatively about your own body. If you are trying to lose weight, let your child know you are doing so to improve your health. You should avoid skipping meals and diet pills and instead model healthy eating and good exercise habits.
Eileen realized her adolescent son was influenced by hearing her count points for the Weight Watchers program. It was necessary to educate him about the program and the reasons he needed to consume many more calories than weight watching adults.
4. Teach your child self-respecting strategies for coping with negative emotions and stress. Talking it out, exercise, meditation, music, counseling, or prayer are a few healthy alternatives to overeating.
5. Eat healthy meals at home. Dr. Neumark-Sztainer writes “family meals can play a major role in preventing eating disorders, especially in adolescent girls.”
6. Discuss images in magazines and on television that present unrealistic bodies. We need to help boys and girls understand (and laugh!) at these unattainable images in the media. Adolescent girls are especially vulnerable to fashion magazines. A study by Kimberly Vaughan and Gregory Fouts actually linked the relationship of decreased eating disorder symptoms to decreased magazine reading!
Explain to your child that professional athletes and actresses like Halle Berry or Keira Knightley often workout for many hours daily to maintain such low weight. Help your child to understand genetics and the fact that healthy bodies are not one size fits all.
If your child’s poor body image or low self-esteem concerns you, talk to a counselor or medical professional. For more information about eating disorders, contact the National Association of Eating Disorders (http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/) toll-free helpline at 800-931-2337.
M. Ranard is a professional counselor, an academic tutor, and a freelance writer. Visit her blog at hellolovelychild.blogspot.com.
Resources:
The National Association of Eating Disorders, www.nationaleatingdisorders.org, toll-free helpline, 800-931-2337
The Center for the Advancement of Health, www.cfah.org
Interview of Dr. Neumark (www.cfah.org)
“What’s the best thing we can do for our kids” www.discoverumn.edu
“Changes in television and magazine exposure and eating disorder symptomatology.” Vaughan, Kimberley K. and Fouts, Gregory T. Sex Roles: A Journal of Research, Oct., 2003.
